Whole family approaches
The most effective approaches are ones that are meaningful to families and understand the interrelationships that are so vital in supporting respective needs. Offering breaks that appear good on paper but are only available at times when the carer is at work, or when the friends they wish to see aren’t free, for example, is not going to deliver the best outcomes. Also, a carer will not enjoy a break, or may indeed stop taking a break, if their loved one does not enjoy their own experience or if it’s too inconvenient to arrange.
Commissioners and providers need to understand the complexities of families. Some carers may not want social care involved or be wary of it. Carer organisations, for example, may be more able to open up the conversation. Support to enable personalised approaches, such as pooled personal budgets for families, can be a great way to tailor solutions. However, just offering budgets is often not enough and can add to people’s stress. People may need support with ideas or administration to get things working.
Caring relationships are not linear. Other family and friends may be involved, or there may be co-caring, as is frequently the case with older couples. Valuing the roles that different people play and responding to their respective gifts, interests and needs can help in planning effective breaks. Many carers want more inclusive approaches – services that know the family rather than ‘deal’ with just the carer or the person they care for. Many hospices do this well. Commissioners and providers can learn from them in order to build whole family approaches.
As well as good co-production with carers (including self-funders) and their loved ones so carers define and shape what’s needed, commissioners need to create channels for assessments to inform delivery. To do this well, assessments need to be truly strengths based – really listening to what families need, helping them tailor solutions that are right for them. More on this is in the assessment section.